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Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Open doors (smiths falls ontario), A place to avoid as parents of teenagers.

As of late, anti parent, anti family social programs in the neighbourhood(lanark county Ontario) have stayed away from the media and making ridiculous online statements. Why? who knows....(lol).
They use to be in the media (EMC-COURIER) every  week. After this site opened and pointed out their misgivings, they practically disappeared.
We found it difficult to criticize anything they claimed since they hid and refrained from offering this site any kind of statements that we could debate...we had to go back to previous posts on and on, and that gets "boring".
So, we had to lure them out with pressure to their "over inflated egos" by taking credit for their silence saying they were "afraid" of this site...
And sure enough....

Two of the local social programs, (deeply controlled by radical feminists and their manginas) interval house in Carleton place on. and open doors in smiths falls on., have started to make media statements about their "needed existence to the community" again, and maybe they are needed, but not the way they see it that's for sure.

Let's start  with open doors...
Open Doors offers network of child, youth mental health services

One of the worst mistakes we can make as parents is going to those who have no idea about the workings of your family home, the mistake they can cause could be irreversible and dangerous to your kids especially your teenagers.
They will claim to be experienced, but if we really think about it, if they never stepped into your shoes, how can that be...they certainly cannot gain that experience about your kids in universities, because everyone is an individual with separate individual character. Teenagers are a breed of their own, the raging emotions, rebellion, are not some thing that can be diagnosed by someone who have not been with them day in and day out, as parents have, this is, as we know, a passage of life for these kids and to identify it as anything other than that, by those who depend on how many kids go through their doors for funding is not exactly the smartest thing to do...
I know, I made that mistake....
When I went to these manipulators, I asked them first not to mention what I was telling them to my teen  once she came into the office, she was extremely rebellious, had medical problems and would have a bad reaction to it, especially towards me...I even told them that I was willing to accept that it could be me and I simply wanted an outside opinion...
As soon as I got my teen into the office one of the two "counsellors", a female, started right away with "your father said this and that about you"(does that sound like experienced people you want around a rebellious teenager?). needless to say, that shocked the hell out of me. I got one of the dirtiest look from my daughter, the "you told" look. Of course when we got home, as I predicted, things got worse.
Then the male "counsellor" as he saw I was not happy with what had just happened, gives me a frigging pen and told me to pretend it was a speaking feather...."Excuse me?"
First of all they were not native and had no idea on how that works and if they would have been, they would not of taken that rout. Native counsellors take a different road when it comes to family difficulties.
These two bozos had one policy in mind, it is always "the parents fault", and when they take that direction, the only response you get from your kid is "see I told you it was your fault" and when that happens, as we know, things just get from bad to worse.
Most teens as they grow, which most doctors will tell you have a chance of having a chemical imbalance in the brain, I know that mine had that and other medical problems. Because of their(open doors) inexperience they did not look at the possibility that this was something that they had to tread on carefully, to them they knew all and where better than the parent or the medical field.

As I looked further into this situation, I investigated other families, talked to parents, especially when some of them told me their kids had uncontrollable anger issues.This is usually seen between the age of 10 to 15.
The pattern I found is, alcohol and drugs....did the mother drink or do any kinds of drugs while pregnant, did the father drink or do drugs at conception? (and that includes pot, which has THC...that is a chemical which enters the bloodstream...male or female)
I am not knocking pot, just offering an opinion...

I do not claim to be an expert, but there was a pattern, either the mother drank even a little or did drugs before or during pregnancy, and if she did not, the father did at conception...and that was in every case...
Therefore, uncontrollable anger amongst kids at that early age might not be all emotional but medical, hence the chemical imbalance I was talking about. Which adhd can also be attributed to.
Teen help organisation will never offer you to look at the possibility of your child's behaviour been medical, they didn't with me anyway, by not looking at this issue, a parent might take their advice and goes home with the wrong information.
Not every anger issue is based on the point I made, it's just one possibility, I am a big believer that growing teenagers have this imbalance as they grow from childhood to adulthood, the pressure of changing habits, can cause stress and depression. Add the stranger in some office trying to tell them what and how to behave and the stress increases because now they see their parents cant handle them, believe it or not that is hurtful to a teenager.
Also teen girls are more than twice as likely to suffer from depression as teen boys.
Bad eating habits, fast food, too much sugar, some foods can negatively impact the balance of the body.
As parents we also have to be aware, depression in teens is different than depression in adults and can be triggered by events, situations or physical causes that would not have the same impact on an adult. Parents need to be familiar with the symptoms of teen depression and not ignore these warning signs if they occur.
The best way to handle this, is to be informed, not to throw your teen to the first snake oil salesman out there, promising a quick fix.

In the link above they call the medical field, "a "patchwork" of psychiatric services for kids in hospitals, who fail to consider the extensive network of child and youth mental health services available throughout Ontario from community-based agencies, like Open Doors for Lanark Children and Youth.", trying to convince us that they know more on this than doctors do. It is true that some kids go through emotional confusion while growing up, but that's all it is. The point is, what if it isn't, what if it is medical, and it is treated as simple teenage rebellion. Under those circumstances the kid and the parents are going in the opposite direction thanks to these people who try to demean doctors and pass themselves off as the answer.
Severe mental heath problems as they describe it, cannot be handled by people who turn on the parent the way they did to me, or pass off a pen as a talking feather, it has to be looked at by those who actually have experience in that field, and no, pills are not the answer either. The answer is to look at all possibilities, parenting, family, to recognize that kids need a role model, to have patience, to always be there and most importantly to accept that outside help is only an opinion, to be looked at and to decide if it is something you can adapt to your situation.

What really stand out, to me anyway, was this statement....
"The answer is clear: expand our network of community-based services and make them available to kids and families. Among other advantages, these community based services are far less costly to deliver and can avoid the pressure on expensive hospital based services in future years"

When they say "expand our network and less costly" they mean give us more money and that is what all this is about, funding....always funding....even at the expense of trying to demonize the medical field.
You don't have to be a rocket scientist to know Psychiatry and the medical field is better able to handle a chemical imbalance that someone who sees our kids as a tool for increase funding...

The whole article written by the chairman of open doors himself, Robert Laidlaw of Open Doors for Lanark Children and Youth was about trying to divert your attention away from going to the doctor and going to them, while it should have been explained that "both" must be looked at....
As I have said, if it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, there is "nothing" open doors can do, as a matter of fact, and from a personal perspective, they can actually cause more damages....

This post is based on research and personal experiences, I did find out that the best way to handle such a situation with your child is not to depend blindly on others for the welfare of your family, but to look at all opinions, yes even open doors, and see if it is something you can use to make things better....
Understand why such organisations exist, ask questions, look around, see if others have a similar problem. I did and got the same analysis I came up with, they(open doors) made things worse. The best person to correct a child is the parent, not some university educated person who believes they are a gift from the Creator to society.
Eventually, my daughter came back, why? Because I, as a parent never gave up, she apologized for listening to others and her behaviour, "you have always been there for me", and told me everything they did when she was lured away from home by unscrupulous people who looked at her as one more statistic for funding increase.(Local women's shelter and open doors)

I was having problem with my kid, asked for help, even contemplated it might be the way I look at things, and with a stab in the back by one, and a pen as a talking feather from the other, they made things worse, because they had this belief they knew more than anyone else....
In my honest opinion, when parents depend on teen help organisation of any kind, instead of having faith in their abilities, love and strengths, they have lost the connection with their child, that's what a stranger in your mist does, it waters down your position, because it is shared with someone else, and when that happens, the trouble can get even worse.
The other thing we have to be careful about is these people can and will by-pass parents and try to access your child with the co-operation of schools. Always be aware of who is around your child's life and this way, you have a chance.

Finally, remember this; As a parent stop depending on others who have never stepped a foot in your home or shoes, realise this is nothing new, it has happened to our parents, to us and eventually when they have kids of their own(that's when they will come to you and say; you were right).
If your lucky you will not go through this, but if you do, it's just a passage of life for them and if you go to strangers your passing on your responsibility to raise your own child to strangers. Your kids are between childhood and adulthood, that is a difficult time for them and you, they want to be treated as adults, you know they are not ready and that cause friction.
They are not little adults, they will be grown up when you decide they are, not some pen holding numnut who passes it off as a talking feather....

This came from a judge a long time ago and applies today...
 In other words, tell you child they have a responsibility to themselves and to others, teaching kids about responsibilities might not be learned over night, but it will stay with them, and if you do not teach it to them, who will? Certainly not "here is a welfare check if you want to leave home" social programs.
 
Keep in mind, they are our children, not a disease some try to pass on to others or try to find a cure for...from know nothings who look at them as a statistic for funding or inflated salaries.
We as parents, from time immemorial have build this civilisation with our love for them, teaching and passing on values that will help them in life...
They are not our best friends, they are our responsibility, there is a time for spoiling and a time for discipline, if you do not believe in discipline and let them grow on their own, don't ask why things are going wrong. Children respect and want this, it shows love and attention, they thrive on it, might not instantly show, but it will reward you in the long run...


I am a parent, just like all of us, the difference between us and organisations like open door, we know we make mistakes and we learn, they don`t, and that's what make them so dangerous...
I am not telling anyone not to look at these places, just to be aware and dictate what you expect of them, and that you are there for an opinion...they work for you, not the other way around.
If they refuse these condition then you know they are not the experience people they claim to be...
We as parents have given enough of our God given rights to the state, compare to before, things are getting worse because of it.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

The cas is offering help to kid's?

Isn't the anti-family CAS directly responsibe for contributing to the rise of teen mental health issue's.

The forced breakdown of family and anti-father stance by the CAS has definitely promoted mental illness in teen's.

Here;
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/canadian-hospitals-stretched-as-self-harming-teens-seek-help-1.2574316

Some figures for people to ponder.....

• 75% of teen suicides occur in single-parent families.

• 80% of the adolescents in psychiatric hospitals come from fatherless homes.

• Fatherless children are eleven times more likely than are children from intact
families to exhibit violent behavior

Can one not at least partially blame family breakdown?


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The Native Canadian said...

Cas, teen organisations, shelters and most social programs are all controlled by radical feminists, some even man haters and if their not, they are definetly of the opinion its all mens fault or no need for fathers and have gone on that policy..Your point is well taken,since they have gone in that direction, and "pretending" that they know more than parents and that fathers are not important, more kids depressed and without a path to follow for the future.